The lighthouse doesn't run all around the rocks to rescue.  It stands still and SHINES for all to see then guides them home to safety. Ros Clarkson

Our children: 

Some choose not to give birth; some for whatever reason are unable to give birth.  Some adopt, some foster many have a family because that is the cycle of life.  My husband and I we brought two daughters into the world to love and nurture.  It has not been an easy road to travel: children are a great test of your character and a huge learning curve within the bounds of this world we live.

As we grow and learn together, we see the highs and lows of their paths. I couldn't be more proud of the women they have grown to be to-date.  I am sure there are going to be many more tests, trials, joy, laughter, adventures and so on through their and my journies.  What I realize is that just because I gave birth to them doesn't give me control of whom they are or what they do.  That is their journey. 

I am privileged to watch as a bystander at their choices, asked for some advice or to offer support. But it is not my journey and taking a back seat is a challenge for many parents when their children go from child to adult.  We are not here to live our accomplishments through our children, or tell them how they live their lives.  If we see they are on a bad path we need to assist them back on the right one but not judge, challenge or disempower them.   They may choose a different way than what have but that doesn't mean it is wrong.  There are many life alternatives. 

Communication and acceptance are important of course.  We can share our opinions but it is only that - our opinion.  What our children choose to do with it is up to them.  Control doesn’t assist anyone and you have control only over how you think, feel and act.  No one else. 

“Be the change you wish to see in the world”   M Gandhi.

Allowing ......

Are you confused as to what you are supposed to do, how to feel, what to release, who to be around, who not to be around, what rituals work, what rituals don't? The list is endless.

In this ever increasing bombardment of living the ‘perfect life’ are you overwhelmed?

It really is about where you are ..... as far as I know no one has a "magic pill" that takes FEAR, pain, hurt, anxiety or blame away easily. They also have not created the "happiness pill" that has this earth’s population shaking hands, being excepting of each other, caring, nurturing a spirit of team work ~ I will cheer the day we have a truly wonderful world as many speak of in the spiritual way. But I have a feeling that is a Utopian idea and it’s called heaven.

Until then we do our best to allow the one person you have an influence of ~ YOU.... and only. You can make a difference in your own life, right here, right now. Do what feels right, speak up and do not gag on your own feelings or words.

I know I get confused. I am not going to tell you I have all the answers, I don't. I have not achieved total human perfection but I do enjoy giving it a kick ass try and I also don't believe that there is human perfection, only contentment. I am doing the best I can on any given day. Every day is new -  thinking, putting into action or accepting being. I am a whole new ME. I am much kinder to me and that in itself is a huge step forward. I think I am doing a doctorate on the topic, but it continues to evolve.

I do wonder why we are not taught as children to LOVE who we are and taught conflict resolution.

I could give you the appearance that I have all my shit worked out and because of that I can give you all the answers too. I have worked out a lot of stuff and have become a more enlightened person, loving and. Caring. What I want to do is make a difference in this world for the things I have had to learn, for the experiences and pain I had over my life.

I am making it through. We all have walked different journeys and we have knowledge to share on our subjects. To me being true to me and authentic is so much more important than projecting to the world a bullshit story of everything is perfect. We have emotions and we suppress them giving more stuffing down into our gut.

If I could ask you to honour them, give them a voice and allow yourself to look at them in the face and see you don't have to hold on to them .... let them go with love.

I am so grateful for life. So believe in yourself and live life the best way you can today.  

Love and gratitude Ros.

Story of a Zen Master:

In this village, a little boy is given a gift of a horse.  The villagers all say, “ Isn't that fabulous? Isn't that wonderful? What a wonderful gift.”

The Zen master says, “We’ll see.”

A couple of years later the boy falls off the horse and breaks his leg.  The villagers all say “ Isn't that terrible? The horse is cruel. That’s horrible!”

The Zen master says, “We’ll see.”

A few years later the country goes to war and government conscripts all the males into the army, but the boy’s leg is so screwed up, he doesn't have to go.  The villagers all say, “ Isn't that fabulous? Isn't that wonderful?”.

The Zen master says, “We’ll see.”

Just as the Zen Master says “We’ll see”.  It is all in the way we perceive it to be. 

If we, let go of the attachment that it is either, good or bad, see that it is our perception that is judging the situation, and then we can choose how we handle it differently.  See it through new eyes with new thoughts,  and belief systems, different to the way we have been taught in the past or through experiences.  See them as lessons to grow, gain strength and wisdom. ~ Unknown Author.

This is a good reminder to look at the way you perceive something that has happened in your life. Seeing the experience as a learning one.  Acknowledge and let it go.  This will be beneficial to your spiritual growth and you will be wiser for the lesson.  

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