Our children:
Some choose not to
give birth; some for whatever reason are unable to give birth. Some adopt, some foster many have a family
because that is the cycle of life. My
husband and I we brought two daughters into the world to love and nurture. It has not been an easy road to travel:
children are a great test of your character and a huge learning curve within
the bounds of this world we live.
As we grow and learn
together, we see the highs and lows of their paths. I couldn't be more proud of
the women they have grown to be to-date.
I am sure there are going to be many more tests, trials, joy, laughter,
adventures and so on through their and my journies. What I realize is that just because I gave
birth to them doesn't give me control of whom they are or what they do. That is their journey.
I am privileged to
watch as a bystander at their choices, asked for some advice or to offer
support. But it is not my journey and taking a back seat is a challenge for
many parents when their children go from child to adult. We are not here to live our accomplishments
through our children, or tell them how they live their lives. If we see they are on a bad path we need to
assist them back on the right one but not judge, challenge or disempower
them. They may choose a different way
than what have but that doesn't mean it is wrong. There are many life alternatives.
Communication and
acceptance are important of course. We
can share our opinions but it is only that - our opinion. What our children choose to do with it is up
to them. Control doesn’t assist anyone
and you have control only over how you think, feel and act. No one else.
“Be the change you
wish to see in the world” M Gandhi.
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