May 16, 2012

Judgement, let’s get to tolerance



“Don’t judge me. You cannot handle half of what I have dealt with! There’s a reason I do what I do. There’s a reason I’m, who I am”. Dylan Glynn Jones

Judgement: A formal utterance of an authoritive opinion or an opinion so pronounced.

Tolerance: Sympathy or indulgence for beliefs or practices, differencing from or conflicting with one’s own.  

Now, there is an interesting topic “judgement” and, funnily enough it came up again only this week.  We are always reminded to be “non judgemental” and I am in agreement with that if we lived in a perfect world - that would be great.

The intention should be “not to judge others in a negative way”.  But we don’t live in a perfect world and things do happen to us, people will hurt us, let us down, not live up to our expectations, and abandon us. 

We do judge others and we will be judged.  Its part of the human way of thinking at this time, “I hope it changes”.  Until it does we have to find our way to see things more positively and people in a new light.
What if, instead of condemning the JUDGEMENT, we could start seeing that the act was the issue and not condemn the person in a negative way.  What, if instead, it was the start of a process that we view the action, not that person?  Opening your mind to a new possibility of seeing it as a way to grow, to change, to strengthen and to learn to love yourself with compassion as well as others and then you are coming back to ONENESS.

It doesn’t come naturally to begin with; it takes practice, persistence and patience to learn to live a life of LOVING EVERYONE, yourself included.  We live in a world where relationships are all around us and we have to find our way through the maze, to undo all the patterns of negativity that have been wired into us from years gone by.  It’s time to stop beating ourselves up because you haven’t achieved perfection.  But I would say this: “look at the way you see your life and if it is not working the way you wish it to, then it is time to look at it with fresh eyes and start the process of change”. Ros Clarkson.

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