Looking inward; to create change in your outer world

10 Steps to Happiness and Peaceful living:

“How I do this is”? I make a conscious choice everyday that I embrace today.  Live in the “Present” moment and see myself as a VICTOR, not a Victim.

How do we create a better life? All of us wish for our life to be purposeful and happy, but life doesn't always work like that.  We have ups and downs, disappointments and dramas. We have challenges, experiences and if we are lucky, we get the lessons.  We let go of guilt, pain and suffering.  We find forgiveness, happiness and love.

  

~PATIENCE, PRACTICE AND PERSISTENCE~

My 10 steps to happiness and peace

1.    Love: We give love to others quiet freely.  How many of us actually love our self and express it?  Many of us see ourselves though the filters of disappointment and criticism. It is time to love yourself, because you are AMAZING.

2.    Nature: Spending time taking walks, swimming; hugging a tree, gardening, sitting by the ocean.  Reconnecting to Mother Earth is very healing. It grounds you and calms you.

3.    Laughter: As the saying goes “laughter is the best medicine” and it’s true. Find what tickles your funny bone and puts a smile on your face, and do it more.

4.    Forgiveness:  People will hurt you. But it is that they don’t live up to our expectation that actually hurts us.  Forgiving someone is not about them, it is a gift to you. When you let go of the pain and say “I forgive”, you are freeing up space to allow new light into your heart.  And remember to forgive you as well.

5.    Reaching out: When we go though major challenges, especially in health, we are constantly being told to be strong and positive. But, we don’t have to do it on our own.  Ask for help.  Surround yourself with supportive, uplifting people.  Let go of the ones that don’t assist your well being.

6.    Listen:  Your best friend is your body and it tells you exactly what you need at any given moment.  Take time to stop the mind by taking 3 deep breathes, meditation, exercise, taking a walk, being focused on what you are doing at the present moment, a hobby you like. Do whatever stops those negative thoughts.  But with patience, practice & persistence, little by little you will master the mind and your thoughts.

7.    Kindness:  Be kind to yourself through your words, thoughts & feelings and give yourself the compassion that you would give to others.  You are your own best friend. Treat yourself well.

8.    Victim or Victor:  You get to choose which you wish to be. You have the power. You can blame the outer world for all your woes, or you can step up and be the HERO in your own life story.  Which do you choose?

9.    Gratitude:  When we live in an “attitude to gratitude”, see everything as a blessing to learn and grow through.  Then life is a whole lot more JOYFUL.

10.  Embrace living NOW:  We are given no guarantees in life but we are given the “Present” moment, right here, right NOW. 

Life is not perfect; it is an opportunity to achieve greatness.  So when the times come that you are not feeling so great, that is perfectly OK.   Acknowledge your feelings and allow them to pass.  Then make a new choice to enjoy your life starting NOW.

How did I achieve my happiness?  I took the tools that I have studied along my journey, applying them each day.  With trust, believe and hope I live my days using these steps.  Each day it becomes easier.  If I can, you can too.  I believe in you.

I challenge you to live your life with the greatness you were born to be!

What changes will you make to your life?

Which step will you start with?

Follow my journey on my findingurwings Facebook page. 

All original material posted to this site is (c) 2013, Ros Clarkson. All rights reserved.

Welcome to 2013 ~ New Beginnings

Happy New Year and welcome to new beginnings 2013.

Over the past few days I have felt the need to retreat.  I feel it will be beneficial to take time out from my normal day, connecting with people on Facebook.  I need to rest and rebalance my spiritual work and live this normal Earthy life.... the one that is Ros.

A friend kindly gifted me a Loving Guidance Reading for 2013 http://shellyrwilson.com/and as part of the reading Shelly reminded me to embrace the “amazingness” of this incarnation that is Ros Clarkson ~ “you will not be Ros again”.  Shelly is right.

I ask you to embrace you your own uniqueness.  

 We often don’t understand why we experience certain events in our lives.  Why is it that some people have a marriage which lasts a life time whilst others experience divorce?  Why do some people have great health whilst others experience illness, disease or physical challenges?  Why do some people have great wealth and others struggle financially?  Then there are people that have comfortable living standards but feel lack around them. Some will give their time freely to assist others and some will only think of their own needs.  Why are some people encouraged to be whatever they choose and others are discouraged, even put down or bullied by society.  The list goes on.

Everybody has a story to tell.  Through other people’s experiences, there are lessons for our own lives.  If you attach yourself to the victim mentality you will not grow in your spiritual journey. You will remain stuck in the past. I urge you to view each experience as a new opportunity to learn, grow and be “present” in your life today. 

Ros 5th Chemo session.

What I feel guided to do this year is to write about my experiences to assist my readers to see things in a different perspective.   We live in a world of information overload.  We have never had so much information at our fingertips as we do right now - TV, radio and particularly the internet have created  a global community at the touch of a button.  We have so many people opening their hearts in a spiritual culture.  They are stepping up to assist others to believe that there is more to this life than what we can see with our own eyes.  I have many friends that are sharing their joy of life, have a daily connection with spirit and are giving positive messages of JOY, LOVE AND HOPE.  This is my message too.  My mission is to be “vulnerable showing that it is not a weakness but actually a strength” to share the highs, lows, the mountains, the valleys and the many challenges of my life so that you may reflect on your world and if necessary make changes and create alchemy in every day. 

Life is about perspective and choices.  You have a choice how you see, feel and think.  It is about how we view experiences and situations. 

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”. Wayne Dyer

All original material posted to this site is (c) 2013, Ros Clarkson. All rights reserved.

Nurturing is healing .....

“Take care of your body it is the only place you have to live”, this is so true.  Over the past week I have been feeling the occasional sharp pain in and around, my newly reconstructed left breast.  Is it stress? Is it my body telling me to look after myself, slow down and BREATHE?  Maybe it is to just be still and nurture me at this time.  Maybe my body is asking me to reconnect to me.  I don’t know? But I am asking questions “what is right about this I cannot see yet?” and I have an open mind to see the answers be revealed in Divine time.

    

Even though, I am moving forward in my own personal journey of change.  I still sometimes forget to see the amazing changes physically, mentally and spiritually that I have been through especially this past two years.  I have thoughts of a song “if a picture paints a thousand words”, well my story was vividly revealed to me two days ago.  While I was looking for a photo of a friend’s husband that was taken at my 50^th birthday in July, I saw the photo file of me topless on a beach in the South of France, the holiday that hubby & I went on just after the diagnoses with breast cancer in May 2010.  I am so glad that I have these to see as it is my way of embracing me, to acknowledge my body and be free of insecurity, judgement or embracement of my breasts and torso.  My story is in pictures from the beginning where I can see that the nipple of my left breast was dipping inwards almost like collapsing compared to my healthy right breast.  I didn’t want to believe that there was anything wrong at the time I was diagnosed, because I felt well and healthy; I also had to believe that what if I could change it and my breast to be well.  “What would it take?”  Well in my case it was revealed that it would take surgery, to have my left breast removed and for many medical treatments and another surgery to create a new breast from another part of my body. Seeing the photos of my body just prior to reconstruction surgery in January 2012, having only my right breast and no scare along the bikini line where they cut me from one hip to the other, using my stomach muscle to rebuild my cleavage.  I would like to say what an amazing job my surgeons did at the removal and reconstruction. I so appreciate the care and expertise they took to make my body as we say “normal” whatever that is?  The strength it has taken, to have the courage to walk this journey of change and learning, has been a focused and determined one on my part.  I have at the end of the day had to walk this journey, supporting me.  Yes, I have had many people come in and out and some have stayed, but we all have our part to play the best way we know how. 

There are so many energies and shifts happening around me at this moment.  Time seems to have speeded up and lessons coming faster to learn and old thinking patterns and experiences are being revisited for letting go. Transformations of who we are.  With the Mayan Calender completion approaching in December 2012, it is not only me that is feeling this overwhelming energy of change. 

I have been scared these past few days because it has been a huge path I have had to walk.   I don’t want to have to do it again; I have cried many tears because, I am human.  I am not bullet proof. I am bones, skin, tissue, dna  on a physical level and it is ok to acknowledge that. I have these feelings. I will make decisions to assist me for what to do next.  I also have had to terms that my reality world is moving with my adult daughter moving out of home and spreading her wings to fly in her new chapters of life.

 What I felt drawn to do this morning was to massage my body especially my breast to connect to release the tension in and around them.  Nurturing me.  Society has portrayed the breast as a way of feeding our children, or as sexual pleasure for the man. How often do you view your breasts as your way of feeling pleasure? How often do you look at yourself naked in the mirror as see beauty of your body? Or do you just see the flaws or imperfections?  How many women say “Wow, what a beautiful, sensual and ravishing Goddess, I am”

Copy righted to Ros Clarkson 2012.

Giveaways | Mystic Trinity

Giveaways | Mystic Trinity

What I love is the generous energy of Mystic Trinity.  The jewellery, readings and kindness radiate to all they touch with the LOVE.  Congratulation to your milestones and many more years ahead.  Ros